On reducing anger and frustration

Despite what seems to make sense the common idea of “venting” to reduce and relieve anger does not actually work well, and deescalating, soothing, and calming activities are far more effective: https://www.sciencealert.com/venting-doesnt-reduce-anger-but-something-else-does-study-discovers https://news.osu.edu/breathe-dont-vent-turning-down-the-heat-is-key-to-managing-anger

Whether it is anxiety, fear, anger, sadness, etc; most of us know that experience when we are filled with an inconvenient and undeniable feeling. Imagine that feeling as an uninvited person who is getting into your car. Imagine that you are driving a car, and then that familiar uninvited feeling shows up, be it spontaneously, […]

Sometimes, in order to avoid acting on my emotions or reactions, I find that it helps to separate them from myself. I even imagine an emotion as a separate ‘person,’ giving me bad advice. How I see that person depends on the feeling. Anger reminds me of the sidekick to the bad guy in teen […]

It is bad enough feeling depressed, or anxious, or angry, or resentful. There are times when it is almost impossible to avoid these feelings. But then we get caught up in what my wife refers to as ‘the second level.’ You can be depressed about being depressed, (i.e. “What’s wrong with me? Why do I […]

Two helpful videos to watch with your kids: