On divorce

research shows these warning sigbs can be associated with relationships that end in divorce:   http://www.sciencealert.com/7-things-that-predict-divorce-according-to-science

This article offers tips on how to talk to your teen about dating and relationships: Talking About Love: How to Teach Teenagers to Be in a Relationship  

Studies show that children are sensitive to quieter resentment and passive aggressive comments between parents, not just arguments or fighting: http://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2016/10/the-effects-of-a-simmering-parental-grudge/503015/  

This article discusses the risks that staying together in an unhappy marriage poses for the kids: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/7-ways-you-can-damage-your-kids-by-staying-in-a-bad-marriage_us_573b4845e4b0646cbeeaf9a9

  Common courtesy is hardest at home.   * * * *   Don’t keep score.   * * * *   If you are arguing about arguing i.e., ‘I didn’t yell!’ ‘Yes, you did!’ or you are taking turns yelling your point without any effort to really consider the point your partner just made, […]

  “Holding anger is a poison, it eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hating is a curved blade, the harm we do, we do to ourselves.”      -Mitch Albom[i]   ****   “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other […]

Let’s say, for the sake of discussion, that you decide one day that you will no longer have a certain fight with your partner. You clearly love her, and you do not intend to argue. Even though it is hard to let her have her way, you decide that, for the relationship’s sake, you are […]

Many parents that I have worked with have asked some variation of the same question at some point in the therapy: “Why is it so hard to raise a teenager?” Inherent in this question is the question ‘why is it so hard to raise OUR teenager?’ Parents want to know if there is something wrong […]

At some point, you will be happier if you try to accept that your partner will do things that hurt or annoy you from time to time. Your partner can never be exactly who you want him to be all of the time. He may change, he may not, but it will be easier to […]

Research indicates the two variables that best predict/engender lasting relationships are: Kindness and Generosity: http://www.businessinsider.com/lasting-relationships-rely-on-2-traits-2014-11

Psychologist John Gottman and his wife Julie, also a psychologist, in New York City. Together, are renowned experts on marital stability who run The Gottman Institute, which is devoted to helping couples build and maintain loving, healthy relationships based on scientific studies. They have been studying couples who not only endure, but live happily together […]