Throwing a stone

Perceived attacks are tricky things. I can be so aware and hurt by what you did that I naturally conclude (i.e. assume) that you were acting with the knowledge that I would be hurt. To me, the connection is obvious. It is impossible to imagine that someone could do that, and not see how it […]

One day I was regressing a little, and watching Justice League (TV Series 2001-2006), a cartoon show about a superhero team including, among others, Superman and Wonder Woman. In that episode Superman and Wonder Woman were fighting a villain that used magic. He created a flash of light as a distraction. When the light faded, […]

There are certain people in our lives that can become our personal example of a certain trait. Sometimes it is a trait we have that we wish we didn’t, and we tend to be quite hard on those friends, since they remind us of that which we don’t like in ourselves. In other cases, it […]

Imagine that one day ‘Bob’ is driving downtown. All of the sudden, a pedestrian steps out in the middle of the road, and Bob is forced to suddenly hit the brakes in order to avoid hitting the pedestrian. Now, Bob is pretty annoyed at this selfish and inconsiderate jaywalker. If Bob is in the wrong […]

One of the reasons that the difference in perspective between people is so complicated is because it is often impossible to explain why we feel the way we do about many things. It is difficult to identify why something feels like an attack to one person and wouldn’t bother the other. Or why something is […]

Imagine your favorite TV show. Now imagine that you REALLY like that show. Imagine that for you, it IS a great show, period. This goes beyond personal opinion, it seems like a fact. Now imagine that someone speaks poorly of that show. He says it is poorly written, poorly acted, and the entire premise is […]

“Just because you feel it, doesn’t mean it’s there.” ­-Radiohead [i]   * * * *   “No more things should be presumed to exist than are absolutely necessary.” Occam’s Razor   * * * *   “The problem is not what you look at, but what you see.” -Henry David Thoreau   * * […]

“If I take a lamp and shine it toward the wall, a bright spot will appear on the wall. The lamp is our search for truth… for understanding. Too often, we assume that the light on the wall is [Truth], but the light is not the goal of the search, it is the result of […]

I still remember the first time I witnessed the power of metaphor with a client. Michael was 14 years old. He had bounced from one therapist to the next and was guarded, cynical about adults in general, and therapists in particular. He had run away from his parents’ house on several occasions. To put it […]