Every family has
a language and stories
power and roles
secrets and pretenses
rules and rituals
joy and pain

Who we are as individuals
Makes sense in a new way
When seen in the context of our families

When the family is irrational
The only sane way to react
Is to be irrational

And that behavior cannot be fully understood or addressed
Unless you look
At the catalysts and consequences
In the relationships
where that behavior occurs

The distance between
what you believe that you believe
what you believe that you said
what you actually said
and what they believe they heard
is the domain of family work

In these distances
lie the chasms of miscommunication
that leave you feeling unheard
misunderstood or attacked

This is where a therapist can help

 

Areas of Expertise:

  • Finding the loyalty, the love, the positivity, and when all else fails, the sense of humor to continue living with each other
  • Shining a light on the invisible strings
  • Loosening the hold of family scripts
  • Discovering new ways to talk to each other
  • Holding each other accountable
  • Naming and overcoming the common discourtesies we reserve for our families
  • Fostering the flexibility necessary for negotiation
  • Exploring intention and misinterpretation
  • Contextualizing anger
  • Acting as an interpreter